What is in a woman’s surname?
Everything about her father
Everything about her husband’s father
References to the patriarchy she belongs to
A male classification order for us women
Monuments to our fathers.
But what of our mothers?
She is nowhere in this nymic roadmap
We cannot trace her
We cannot find her
Even her maiden name is a man’s name
Trillions of women lost under patronymics
What do we know of them except their relation to men
The men are stabilized in a name
Whether married or single they will always be “Mr”
But we change, tearing down one patronymic monument to build another
When single it’s “Miss”
When married it’s “Mrs”
When unsure it’s “Ms”
Our identity and status is defined and regulated by men
How can we remember what has never been?
We construct our own matronymic monuments
We do it to honour our mothers and cradle our daughters