PORT MORESBY - How am I supposed to react when suddenly finding a friend after losing contact for many years?
When John Gordon-Kirby recently commented on an article I had published in PNG Attitude back in 2016, my impulse was to contact him immediately.
It was strange. His comment was about people I mentioned in the article but said nothing about me.
Didn’t he recognise my name on the byline? Or my picture? Had he forgotten me?
Vivid memories of our first meeting surged through my mind.
John Gordon-Kirby was the first white man who had dared to enter our traditional bush material home, stooping through the low door and into the dark windowless living room.
This young man did not seem to care about fleas, cockroaches, smoke, rats or dust. The local people held the view their homes were unfit for a white man, but this white man was not deterred.
I was in the house during school holidays when this well-built man appeared in the front yard. I noticed he was well tanned. To me, his presence was overpowering.
I went outside to receive him and find out who he was. Was he lost?
When I saw rain starting to fall on the Waon Mandaka ridge of Mt Kondo, I invited him into our house. Somebody must have directed him to the house, just a couple of meters from the main road, because it was going to rain.
It was probably figured I was the best person to talk to this strange man in English and Tok Pisin and keep him company until the rain stopped.
In those days, not many people knew how to speak Pidgin in my village except for a few young men who had been to the coast to work on plantations under the Highlands Indentured Labour Scheme.
My own uncle had gone to work on cocoa plantations in Wakunai in Bougainville.
I can’t remember the details of my conversation with John Gordon-Kirby but, when the rain subsided, he left taking the address of my school with him.
The following year, when I was back at the University of Technology in Lae, he wrote me very long letters.
I always tried to respond to his letters. I now see he influenced me to think and express my thoughts on paper. That helped much later when I trained at UPNG to be a journalist.
And recently, on PNG Attitude, I found this man again just as suddenly as he had appeared in the front yard of our home at Kondo village in Kandep, Enga Province.
I saw his name beside comments he made about people I mentioned in that article I published in 2016.
I wrote to him on Tuesday 5 November as soon as I obtained his email address.
John W Gordon-Kirby now lives in Melbourne, Australia, and is aged 83.
At first, he didn’t remember anything about our meeting. I was one of many Papua New Guineans and people from Spain and Morocco he had corresponded with for many years.
It was hard for him to remember everybody after losing contact for so long, let alone somebody he had talked with for just a few hours many decades before.
I sent him a picture of my village showing him where my house stood, the wooden log bridge he crossed over the Lai River, Kondo mountain and the main road (now sealed) that joins Kandep with Mendi.
Soon he began to recall lost memories and started to exchange information and pictures with me.
“This correspondence fills me with nostalgic joy,” he wrote. “I once corresponded by post with many PNG people whom I had met or sponsored. This continued to a lesser degree when email took over. However with the passing of time, they all dropped out.
“Thank you for having made me welcome in your humble home. We must not lose contact again. I am now 83 years old but I enjoy good health and lead an active life.”
John told me about how he had assisted Dr Paul Brennan establish the Enga Cultural Museum in Wabag and what a good choice they had made to recruit Akii Tumu to run it.
I sent him pictures of Akii Tumu who is still director of the museum, now renamed Enga Take Anda (House of Wisdom).
I also sent a picture of Dr Paul Brennan and of the Enga Take Anda itself. It was one of many projects John was actively involved in during his 21 month contract as a kiap in Wabag.
He was actively involved in the now defunct Highlands Orchid Centre located in Laiagam. He helped world renowned botanist Andre Miller to give a scientific name to the Enga’s provincial flower – Dendrobium Engae.
John said he helped design the provincial flag which showcases the blooming Dendrobium Engae placed in the centre with a black and green background divided diagonally.
John Gordon-Kirby has indeed lived an active life. He was posted to serve in all regions of Papua New Guinea. One of his personal contributions was to sponsor PNG children to receive an education in Australia.
He sent me a picture of Malai from Baluan Island in Manus who had given him full permission to take his son Simeon to Australia to give him an education.
Veteran journalist, the late Susuve Laumaea, was another of the many Papua New Guineans he helped to pursue an education. John laments the loss of the people he nurtured.
“As far as I know, I have outlived them all,” he said. “The greatest joy is in Susuve’s daughter Annemarie Laumaea who now has an Australian PhD and citizenship.”
Annemarie is presently in America furthering her studies into AIDS and malaria viruses. She and her mother have often visited John and his wife Doreen in Melbourne.
John had no children of his own from separate marriages to two nurses at different stages in his life.
His first marriage was to Ailsa, a New Zealander who worked as a United Church nurse at Nipa in the Southern Highlands. Ailsa often went out with him on patrols to do her child welfare clinics.
They tied the knot in a bush material church building in 1976 just after PNG got its independence.
They left in 1978 and went to New Zealand to settle on a farm. They separated in 1983 but remained friends until she died in 2018.
John married a second time to another nurse Doreen. They too were unsuccessful in having children. But they’ve lived a fulfilling life together for over 30 years and continue to do so.
Like many of us in PNG, John is a self-published author. He has written a small book titled ‘The Rise of the House of Morford’, the culmination of his research into how his maternal grandfather rose from relative poverty as a fisherman's son to a businessman of great wealth.
The family has expanded around the world over the decades, each successive generation contributing with distinction in their chosen roles in commerce, the military, academia, the arts the church and civil service.
John has also published a Life Poem about his experiences around the world from the time he was born in Spain, his migration to Australia, marriage and work experiences. He wrote three pieces about his sojourn in PNG from 1961–78 as a kiap. Before that he was in the British Royal Marines including service on HMS Birmingham in 1958.
Here is one of his three poems:
Then Independence Granted 1975
For two more years we soldier on
“You white fellas go back home”
some radicals and rascals chanted.
“O sorri prend, mi no inap “Sorry friend, I am not able
long halpim yupella nau to help you now.
Bel biloing me i hevi My heart is aching
Gut bai, na tank yu tru, olgeta.” Goodbye, thank you truly.”
With heavy heart
we take our leave
and we depart
to start a life anew -
“Over and out.”
But, it’s not ‘over and out’ yet for John Gordon-Kirby. He still leads an active life and we hope to write to each other for a long time.
John still has the fondest memories of his short time in Enga Province. Equally memorable are his times in other parts of the country in his 14 years in PNG’s ‘nambis,ailan na hailan’ postings.
“I enjoy our interaction, so feel free to contact me as often as you wish,” John wrote to me just now.
I will continue to write to him because the information he has about PNG during the colonial administration period is invaluable.