HERCULES PALME JIM
PORT MORESBY - It is disgusting to hear 'experts' or so called feminists in Papua New Guiea say that boys who grow up in broken homes, settlements, villages or homes with violence are prone to get involved in crime or violence.
I grew up in the village and the settlements without a father and have observed over the years my aunties and sisters being beaten up by their husbands almost everyday of my life as a child growing up.
As a child, I saw a woman accused of sorcery tortured and burnt alive. I've seen it all!
However, I grew out of it to live a life so my daughter will know what to look for in a man.
I am not perfect but trying my best to be a better man. Yes, I have my weaknesses and failures but physically abusing a woman is something I swore not to do.
My daughter is my strength, my comfort and my honour.
I know boys who also grew up in the same environment that are doing their best to be role models and to be the change.
We have had enough!
So yes, I know you've never been in the village or settlements and you know nothing about violence in this context.
You're privileged, so don't sit up there and judge us.
Don't come and brag as if you know our lives and you know the solutions to our problems with your expensive suit and fancy English.
Not all young men in PNG want to abuse their wives or girlfriends every day.
We’ve had enough of this too.
I've heard this over and over and I am tired, tired of stigma attached to kids from broken homes and settlements. We've lived it and seen it.
We have had enough and are trying our best to be better men.
To all the boys in my shoes; keep fighting, keep believing and keep doing the right thing.